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duseet
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 4
|  Subject: why not harari brother  Tue Jun 19, 2007 2:24 pm | |
| If you ask most single harari sisters why they are single, or why they
would not go for harari brothers more likely they will complain that
there are very few or non good harari brothers out there. Is that true?
or is there another reason? Could it be that sisters are setting their
expectations too high? well lets hear your opinions. |
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Akham Ikatbakh
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 21
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Fri Jun 29, 2007 4:26 pm | |
| Duseet,
Yes it is true. there are no Harari men who has the courage of saying yes I am less educated than you are, you earn more than I do but I am capable of taking care of you imotionally and I am willing to follow your direction.
Nigat |
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Akham Ikatbakh
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 21
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Fri Jun 29, 2007 6:34 pm | |
| | Harari ladies Don't be stupids by wait for a Harari man. There are fewer harari men than women if you ask for an educated Harari men you go form few to hand full so please don't west your time life is short. I have a whole bunch of Harari friends who are waiting and waiting for ever for a Harari man I think they are stupids. |
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Akham Ikatbakh
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 21
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Sat Jun 30, 2007 7:17 pm | |
| Back then Harari women when they were angry or kicked out by thier husbands they used to go to their parents house and they used to call it "Gar Hudug leti" Is there such thing now or wit is our turn to do so in that case what is the name of the action "Garhudug leta" It does not feel right please find a good word for it with me please.
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gizman
Joined : 15 Jun 2007
Posts : 2
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Sun Jul 01, 2007 9:04 am | |
| | Akham Ikatbakh wrote: | | Harari ladies Don't be stupids by wait for a Harari man. There are fewer harari men than women if you ask for an educated Harari men you go form few to hand full so please don't west your time life is short. I have a whole bunch of Harari friends who are waiting and waiting for ever for a Harari man I think they are stupids. |
salam Akham Ikatabkh,
I hate to say i disagree with you, but I dont think it is stupidity wanting or chosing some one from your own people as a life time partener. There may be less Educated harari men than women, but that should not be the factor to determin your destiny. I think it is about communication. I personaly think that Harari men lack communication skill more than any thing followed by not knowing their responsiblity. In my opinion Education is not the main issue. Education may have some thing to do but the main thing in my opinion is like i said COMMUNICATION. Harari men are bad communicators.
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Akham Ikatbakh
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 21
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Sun Jul 01, 2007 4:28 pm | |
| Sister Gizman
I think communiction is one of the factors, but don't you think that as Harari woman is more educated her demand for marriage form a Harari man become less and less. I think Harari men think that if he married to an educated woman she will challenge him, he can't control her, the society will look at him down etc. How many times I heard men saying that "Azew Manyeferkehel". I don't want to belam Harari men for their action but it is the enviroment and the culture they grow up force them to think this way. What I am saying is yes, give priority to your country man but don't wait very long your biological time tickes forword. |
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Akham Ikatbakh
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 21
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Fri Jul 06, 2007 5:20 pm | |
| Hi, ladies
Pls. listen to Tue 3zzz about husband - wife relationship very imporatnat. Your input.
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Akham Ikatbakh
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 21
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Sun Jul 08, 2007 12:15 pm | |
| As'slamu Aleykum,
After listning to Tue's lesson at 3zzz about husband and wife relationship in Islam, I have numerous question so these are some of them so if somebody has the answer please respond.
1. How about if the husband is abusive do I have to obay to his requests?
2. Now a days women are becoming bread winners as well as men so how practical is it to be ready all the time to his incosidrate demand, do Malaykas will put their Laanas on me until it is morning?
3. On the flip side if the wife asks her husband to bed and he refuses does that apply on him to?
I need enlightening please.
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duseet
Joined : 07 Jun 2007
Posts : 4
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Mon Jul 09, 2007 12:21 pm | |
| | Akham Ikatbakh wrote: |
1. How about if the husband is abusive do I have to obay to his requests?
2. Now a days women are becoming bread winners as well as men so how practical is it to be ready all the time to his incosidrate demand, do Malaykas will put their Laanas on me until it is morning?
3. On the flip side if the wife asks her husband to bed and he refuses does that apply on him to?
I need enlightening please.
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Asalam alykum AI,
After reading your posting i listened to the 3zzz radio. you raised good questions which i very much would like to know about. I am sure there are a lot of us ladies out there who want to know the right thing. A lot of times these religious issues specially regarding women's right and resposibiltyies towards her husband are discussed by men and women are the silent majority and most of the time it's in favour of men. i wonder how much of it is true. |
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nazqar
Joined : 19 Jun 2007
Posts : 4
| | Subject: Re: why not harari brother Tue Sep 18, 2007 2:15 am | |
| THere are many opinions out there, a true, God fearing muslim man will be reasonable, and understanding like our Prophet (SAW). Unfortunately not many of us men and women understand the true character of a muslim.
It is all about inwardness, and the fear and love of the Unseen. |
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