why not harari brother

duseet · Number of posts: 6 Registration date: 2007-06-08

If you ask most single harari sisters why they are single, or why they
would not go for harari brothers more likely they will complain that
there are very few or non good harari brothers out there. Is that true?
or is there another reason? Could it be that sisters are setting their
expectations too high? well lets hear your opinions.

Akham Ikatbakh · Number of posts: 22 Registration date: 2007-06-07

Duseet,

Yes it is true. there are no Harari men who has the courage of saying yes I am less educated than you are, you earn more than I do but I am capable of taking care of you imotionally and I am willing to follow your direction.

Nigat

Akham Ikatbakh · Number of posts: 22 Registration date: 2007-06-07

Harari ladies Don't be stupids by wait for a Harari man. There are fewer harari men than women if you ask for an educated Harari men you go form few to hand full so please don't west your time life is short. I have a whole bunch of Harari friends who are waiting and waiting for ever for a Harari man I think they are stupids.

Akham Ikatbakh · Number of posts: 22 Registration date: 2007-06-07

Back then Harari women when they were angry or kicked out by thier husbands they used to go to their parents house and they used to call it "Gar Hudug leti" Is there such thing now or wit is our turn to do so in that case what is the name of the action "Garhudug leta" It does not feel right please find a good word for it with me please.

Nigat

gizman · Number of posts: 2 Registration date: 2007-06-16

Akham Ikatbakh wrote:

Harari ladies Don't be stupids by wait for a Harari man. There are fewer harari men than women if you ask for an educated Harari men you go form few to hand full so please don't west your time life is short. I have a whole bunch of Harari friends who are waiting and waiting for ever for a Harari man I think they are stupids.

salam Akham Ikatabkh,
I hate to say i disagree with you, but I dont think it is stupidity wanting or chosing some one from your own people as a life time partener. There may be less Educated harari men than women, but that should not be the factor to determin your destiny. I think it is about communication. I personaly think that Harari men lack communication skill more than any thing followed by not knowing their responsiblity. In my opinion Education is not the main issue. Education may have some thing to do but the main thing in my opinion is like i said COMMUNICATION. Harari men are bad communicators.

gizman.

Akham Ikatbakh · Number of posts: 22 Registration date: 2007-06-07

Sister Gizman

I think communiction is one of the factors, but don't you think that as Harari woman is more educated her demand for marriage form a Harari man become less and less. I think Harari men think that if he married to an educated woman she will challenge him, he can't control her, the society will look at him down etc. How many times I heard men saying that "Azew Manyeferkehel". I don't want to belam Harari men for their action but it is the enviroment and the culture they grow up force them to think this way. What I am saying is yes, give priority to your country man but don't wait very long your biological time tickes forword.

Akham Ikatbakh · Number of posts: 22 Registration date: 2007-06-07

Hi, ladies

Pls. listen to Tue 3zzz about husband - wife relationship very imporatnat. Your input.

Nigat

Akham Ikatbakh · Number of posts: 22 Registration date: 2007-06-07

As'slamu Aleykum,

After listning to Tue's lesson at 3zzz about husband and wife relationship in Islam, I have numerous question so these are some of them so if somebody has the answer please respond.

1. How about if the husband is abusive do I have to obay to his requests?
2. Now a days women are becoming bread winners as well as men so how practical is it to be ready all the time to his incosidrate demand, do Malaykas will put their Laanas on me until it is morning?
3. On the flip side if the wife asks her husband to bed and he refuses does that apply on him to?

I need enlightening please.

Negat

duseet · Number of posts: 6 Registration date: 2007-06-08

Akham Ikatbakh wrote:

1. How about if the husband is abusive do I have to obay to his requests?
2. Now a days women are becoming bread winners as well as men so how practical is it to be ready all the time to his incosidrate demand, do Malaykas will put their Laanas on me until it is morning?
3. On the flip side if the wife asks her husband to bed and he refuses does that apply on him to?

I need enlightening please.

Negat

Asalam alykum AI,
After reading your posting i listened to the 3zzz radio. you raised good questions which i very much would like to know about. I am sure there are a lot of us ladies out there who want to know the right thing. A lot of times these religious issues specially regarding women's right and resposibiltyies towards her husband are discussed by men and women are the silent majority and most of the time it's in favour of men. i wonder how much of it is true.

nazqar · Number of posts: 4 Registration date: 2007-06-19

THere are many opinions out there, a true, God fearing muslim man will be reasonable, and understanding like our Prophet (SAW). Unfortunately not many of us men and women understand the true character of a muslim.
It is all about inwardness, and the fear and love of the Unseen.

La ael · Number of posts: 2 Registration date: 2008-07-29

You all are judgmental !

But I am happy to hear you Harary girls talk and exchange ideas, one thing I don’t agree is when the talking is not backed my evidence and data. You see the argument of more harary ladies bean educated that harary men, the fact that the men are shaped my the culture, the fact that we don’t communicate and etc I don’t think in is based on proof or to say personal experience we all should have our own experience and then talk.

Thank you

Keep it up

aboyaser · Number of posts: 2 Age: 45 Registration date: 2008-07-30

As'slamu Aleykum

sister Akham Ikatbakh regarding your questions . the answers are
1- ( How about if the husband is abusive do I have to obay to his requests?)
first- this is your life and you must be clever enough to make it happy .so obey him as much as you can . and believe me man can easily change if he feels his wife loves him and care for him . ask your self why he is abusive . ore what makes him so.
then try to work on that by trying to control him by discussion and putting solutions .if you both could not come to solutions.
then tell your family about it .and ask them to find a solution not to get the things worse.but if living with him become hard.
you have the right to go to the court and complain him to the judge .
2-(Now a days women are becoming bread winners as
well as men so how practical is it to be ready all the time to his inconsiderate demand, do Malaykas will put their Laanas on me until it is
morning?)
good arrangement Leads to good life .
3-(On the flip side if the wife asks her husband to bed and he refuses does that apply on him to?)
you know that is one of the strongest reasons lets judges divorce man from his wife ( if women ask her husband for bed and he refused ) she has the right to go to the court and the judge will divorce her from her husband in the same day)

although i am not Harari
but i am Muslim and Saudi

aboyaser · Number of posts: 2 Age: 45 Registration date: 2008-07-30

[quote="aboyaser"]As'slamu Aleykum

sister Akham Ikatbakh regarding your questions . the answers are
1- ( How about if the husband is abusive do I have to obay to his requests?)
first- this is your life and you must be clever enough to make it happy .so obey him as much as you can . and believe me man can easily change if he feels his wife loves him and care for him . ask your self why he is abusive . ore what makes him so.
then try to work on that by trying to control him by discussion and putting solutions .if you both could not come to solutions.
then tell your family about it .and ask them to find a solution not to get the things worse.but if living with him become hard.
you have the right to go to the court and complain him to the judge .
2-(Now a days women are becoming bread winners as
well as men so how practical is it to be ready all the time to his inconsiderate demand, do Malaykas will put their Laanas on me until it is
morning?)
good arrangement Leads to good life .
3-(On the flip side if the wife asks her husband to bed and he refuses does that apply on him to?)
you know that is one of the strongest reasons lets judges divorce man from his wife ( if women ask her husband for bed and he refused ) she has the right to go to the court and the judge will divorce her from her husband in the same day)

although i am not Harari
but i LOVE HARARI
SAUDI .JEDDAH

La ael · Number of posts: 2 Registration date: 2008-07-29

Hi

I am la ael, I am Harari men. Age 25

It is interesting what you are talking, but I have to experience it to talk about it,

My question is how I can get Harari women’s hand in marriage and where to get her.

Please help me cause I am planning to get married to educated Harary women.

Thank you

Sincerely